How To Love Yourself
Loving yourself is the first and most important step in your search to finding happiness. These 5 steps will help you get there.
1. Fall In Love With Yourself
What do you think of when two people are in a healthy relationship? What makes a great relationship? As someone who is in a healthy relationship I would say some of the most important factors that go into it are unconditional love, support, trust, words of affirmation, intimacy, acts of kindness, and time together.
These are all factors that should go into your relationship with yourself as well.
Show yourself support by reminding yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to, spend time with yourself to reflect on your hopes and dreams, take a drive and blast your favorite song and have fun with yourself, look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself compliments everyday, treat yourself with things that make you feel good (a massage, a haircut, a yummy snack, a new outfit, etc.), tell yourself that you love who you are everyday, trust yourself in all that you do, and push yourself to be the best you can be.
Fall in love with yourself. This will help lead to greater happiness and ultimately to self love.
2. Eliminate Self-Criticism
Stop judging yourself and telling yourself you’re not good enough because you ARE good enough. Stop focusing your energy on what you’re not good at and start focusing on what you have to bring to the table. What are your strengths? How can you use them to become the best version of yourself? Become your own personal cheer-leader and believe in yourself enough to get up and chase your dreams.
Criticizing yourself will get you nowhere. Everybody is flawed. Everybody. Photoshop and social media may make it seem like not everybody is…but they are. Don’t compare yourself to others either! It’s hard I know, but everybody is different. Only you can write your own story and create the success you seek.
3. Forgiving Your Past & Forgiving Yourself
Everybody’s past makes them who they are. It’s up to you to decide how you’re going to use it to shape the person you are. Have you made mistakes in the past that you regret? Have there been situations in the past that have hurt you? You’re not alone.
Use your past to make you stronger. Forgive those who’ve wronged you and forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. After you do this you can move on from the past and towards your future where you get to decide what happens.
I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it. ― Maya Angelou
4. Self Care
Start taking care of your body and of YOU! Start eating foods that give you more energy and that make you feel good, start exercising enough to boost your mood, start spending time with people who lift you up and support your goals, make sure you get enough sleep, start drinking more water, participate in hobbies that give you joy, listen to uplifting music, etc.
When you start taking care of yourself you feel better and HAPPIER!! Make the extra effort to start taking care of yourself and you won’t be disappointed.
5. Accepting Where You Are Right Now
This step is hard, especially for me. I can visualize where I want to be in life and I’m not there yet. I’ve learned and am continuing to learn how to appreciate where I am. I tell myself that years down the road I will look back to where I am now and reminisce about my younger years and about how bright eyed I was about the future. I don’t want to look back and think to myself, wow, I was miserable. I want to enjoy the now and start shaping myself into who I ultimately want to become.
Live in the moment. Appreciate the now. Embrace your failures because they will ultimately lead to your successes.
“It’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey.”